Do you have childhood traumas and how to find out?
Often, people's lives are full of recurring problems and stories.
Some of us are constantly in a state of strong dependence on others, have problematic relationships or feel lonely and rejected by society, others periodically fall into depression and are chronically dissatisfied, others experience fears and insecurity in themselves, and this hinders them in all areas of life.
But why is that happening? Do you often ask yourself why is that fear so strong? Why are you so judgmental? Why do you feel so alone even if you are surrounded by people who love you? Why do you always find something to worry about, even if the sky above you seems to be cloudless?
Here is the answer!
In most cases, the source of these recurring problems is in past events and experiences in childhood that have left lasting traces in our subconscious mind.
The root of our fears and our feelings of insecurity, low self-esteem, a constant sense of guilt, loneliness, sense of abandonment, too much wounding, aggression, and non-acceptance of ourselves and others often lie in our childhood.
The injured child continues to live in us.
At any age, we have a little girl or boy living in each of us, who longs for love and attention, can be scared, uncertain, and in need of support.
When we become adults, we try to understand ourselves and our problems. However, often we do not even suspect that our current problems and conflicts are related to childhood and childhood injuries.
The most traumatic for us are the traumas of childhood because we often do not remember them and that is why we do not realize them. They "sit" very deeply in our subconscious, and unnoticed affect our adult lives.
Any violation in the family system affects not only adults but also the child, who see and feel there is something wrong. But for the child is much harder to understand the problem. He or she just accepts it as truth and lives with it. And here is where the problems begin.
The traumatic experience is often associated with a threat to life or safety, but any situation that leaves a child in a state of shock or loneliness may be traumatic even if it does not involve physical injury.
Emotional traumas are a painful childhood experience that has created us as mature individuals. It has made us as we are and makes us react in a certain way to adversity and difficulty.
As children, we all learn to react to one or other circumstances by repeating the behavior of our parents. Consciously or not, we do this because we are not yet able to build our own behavior based on our experience. Our parents teach us everything and are therefore very important figures for us.
Ask yourself these questions:
• Are you always attracted to people who are indifferent to you?
• Do you think that even the closest people do not pay enough attention to you and do not understand?
• Do you believe that you have deficiencies in your depth, and if others knew what you were actually, nobody would like you and love you?
• Do you usually put the needs of others to the point where you don’t realize what exactly you need?
• Are you afraid that something bad will happen to you - even a small problem like a slight heartbeat provokes in you terrible thoughts about a serious illness?
• You get recognition and approval, but you still feel unhappy, disappointed and confident that you do not deserve this recognition?
Emotional traumas are a painful childhood experience that has created us as mature individuals. They have made us as we are and makes us react in a certain way to adversity and difficulty.
It is desirable to realize these emotional traumas and avoid their masking. The longer we postpone their healing, the more negative effect they have on us.
The fear of the resurrection of the memories that cause us pain causes us to find all sorts of justifications, in order not to revive them. However, this leads to only one thing - we are running away from the real progress in our lives. It is this behavior that we must avoid.