How to heal your inner child?
Now you know the 5 emotional traumas that most commonly affect the children's minds. If you don't then you may want to read first this article The 5 main childhood traumas and how they affect your adulthood
They have a strong impact on personality building. Dare to fight them.
The first step, like anything in life, is to assume that this trauma is part of you. Allow yourself to be mad, but also give yourself time to recover from it.
So if you were not loved in your childhood, that's another reason to take the child into you and give him all your love.
It was enough to be deprived. Louise Hay recommends John Pollard III's book, "Parents of Myself", which includes exercises and activities with the inner child. The author of this book teaches us how to be parents of ourselves and give us everything we needed in childhood but we have not received it.
There are many ways to work with the inner child. Here are some of them:
Take your picture as a child.
Look at the child of your picture. What do you see in his eyes? Maybe sadness, maybe loneliness, abandoned, or trapped? Maybe it wants you to embrace it, caress it, tell it something?
Ask him what he is afraid of, what he needs. Visualize how you embrace this little child with all your love. Tell him the things you always wanted to hear, but no one ever told you. Let your inner child feel loved, surely accepted.
Another way is to talk to your inner child in front of the mirror.
Stand in front of the mirror and imagine that you see the little child in the opposite direction. Recall the moments when you were hurt, ashamed or offended, feel what your inner child feels.
Try to talk to him. If you had a nickname in childhood, use it or turn to the child in the gentlest way you can remember. Let it feel your support, love, and understanding.
Ask the child to tell you what he or she has experienced, let him /her tell you about the pain he/she still feels. You are the parent you wanted to have at this moment and have to listen to your inner child, calm down, embrace.
Say what you need, tell him that you are already an adult, and you will never let him down, that you will not let anything happen to him. Tell him you love him.
In fact, if you come into contact with your inner child and tell him every day for one month that you accept and love him and believe him, it will bring a surprising change in all areas of your life.
You can also communicate with the child in writing.
Write a letter to your inner child asking him what he wants, what he needs, what he feels and what would make him happy. And then with your hand, which is non-dominant, answer, this time using another color chemical.
Do not think what to answer, just let the memories invade, immerse yourself in the senses of the little child and let him write. This method brings to the surface a lot of information that you do not realize. You will be surprised when you see what you say in yourself.
Do these exercises, and you will see how your life will change. You will begin to feel more confident, calmer and loving of yourself and others.
But if somehow you are having troubles with finding your childhood trauma, or healing it, it is better to talk to a therapist or coach.