The 5 Traumas

Welcome to holistic coach mastery podcast with Marina Stoichkova. It's your audio library for clarity, inspiration, and empowerment. Hello, dear friends and welcome to episode number 30. This is a special number and that's why we're also having a very special team. So this episode is the beginning of a new series, which will be focused on the five traumas. They are specific type of traumas, which affect us in an incredible way. And it's so important actually to bring our awareness to this. So this will be the introduction, we are going to talk about the five traumas and generally what this concept is all about them. How we can find out whether we have one or two or more of those traumas. And obviously, I already told you they are five. So the next five episodes will be focused on each of those traumas. So today we are just sharing the introduction about them, and the next five episodes will be more specific. First of all, where is this concept coming from? This concept has been created by a very famous psychotherapist, her name is Lisa or ball. And she has a tremendous work. She has great insights and this is a major part of her whole life basically her whole career. The idea the concept of those five main types of stories trauma, and also how they affect our lives and what we can do about them, all of it. So, first of all, let's talk about how things start. So I won't surprise you when I tell you that most of those traumas actually start in our childhood. But here is a very important note. So we should not see ourselves as victims. And we should not blame our parents because they have caused certain trauma or other significant people in our lives, but usually, it always goes back to our parents. Here is the main idea. We all choose our parents, and this is a general concept in you know, the spirituality Which I totally resonate with. That's why I'm sharing it with you. And my guess is that you also agree to that. So we are not victims. We have chosen this path. We have chosen our parents, the family that we will be born and raised in, and also the general scenario of our lives. And that includes also the challenges that includes the traumas that we are supposed to get through. And another part here is that this is all resonating even with the previous experiences of hours. So if you are open to the concept of incarnations, then that would make total sense for you. Because the so doesn't die actually and it has certain path, it grows. There are certain patterns that are repeating. And that includes the traumas we go through. So if in previous live, or usually in a couple of lives, we have had certain trauma, and we didn't broses that that's very important. So we weren't able to handle to overcome to heal this trauma. Unfortunately, this will repeat again and again. So, we are choosing when we are about to incarnate when we are about to get born, we are choosing those parents and family and environment that will allow us to overcome our trauma. And in order to overcome it, first we have to re experience it. So here is also the important part of this, about this note, don't look at this as a punishment. Look at this as the opportunity to heal the past traumas. So we are born in this life. We have the traumas, we have the difficulties, but that's not to punish us. That's experience because it allows us to finally heal those past wounds, and eventually, to stop repeating the same traumas, same scenarios and to grow to move to another level. So very important concept here, that everything is an opportunity for us to grow. It's not a punishment. It's not about blaming ourselves or our parents or destiny. There is a meaning to all of it. So that's pretty clear. I guess. We choose our parents and no one's perfect. Even the best parents can create The circumstances or may have the behavior that eventually hurt or traumatizes their kids. And it happens in many cases when the parents also have great intentions. So, of course, there are some extreme cases of parents who are violent, who intentionally may hurt the kids, but for the most part, the parents are trying their best they are doing whatever they can. But that's also creating some kinds of traumas or problems for the kid. And this is very important. So it's all about the past and what we have as a pattern that's created that's already been experienced. We tend to repeat those scenarios. And in early childhood, you might have been through some kind of trauma, you may or may not realize that this is also very important. We don't always have the conscious awareness of the exact trauma, the exact type of trauma we've been exposed to. But here's what happens. We tend to repeat all over again, those same types of trauma. In your childhood, you go through certain trauma, then the tendency is this trauma to be repeated in your adult life and usually a couple of times or even many times through our lives. And why is this happening? First of all, because it's energy, so you go through certain experience, it's kind of imprinted in your energetic field or subconscious mind, whatever you want to call it. And when it stays there without being healed, it tends to attract the same type of energy, which means the same type of experience, which means the same traumas being repeated again. And that will continue until we bring the conscious awareness to it. And we heal this trauma, forgiveness, healing ourselves and forgiving the other people who are involved. And that my friend, is a process. So don't blame yourself. If you cannot do this shift for a day or a week or even a month. Sometimes it really takes time. But the important thing is to bring your awareness and recognize, which are your personal traumas, that's very important. So let's actually talk about the five traumas. I will share with you the five different types of trauma. So here they are. First one is rejection. Then we have abundant month, then humiliation, betrayal, and injustice. Those are the five main types of trauma, rejection, abandonment, humiliation, betrayal, injustice. A very important thing here we need to mention. You may go through certain painful event or something bad in your life, but the different people may interpret this type of event in a different way. So for example, one child might be living without his mother. He might have left the house or though Now the family, but different children may have this may experience this as a different type of trauma. For one child, this might be felt as rejection. For another, it could be betrayal, or abandonment or injustice. So basically, the five types of trauma can be experienced based on one negative event. So, don't hurry to make assumptions. Sometimes you might be surprised when you find out actually, which is the type of trauma that you resonate the most with. And, of course, when you learn more about those traumas, and you're going to learn more about them in the following five episodes, here is something very typical that happens. People kind of recognize themselves in all of them. More or less, of course, but to certain extent, you may think well, oh my gosh, I have those five could it be? And usually it's not the case. So for most people, there are usually two types of trauma that you resonate with the most in they are the most important for you. You may find certain elements of the others as well. But it's very rare for someone to have like, four or five traumas types of trauma, of course. So it's normal and in my experience, it happens in you know, many different areas. For example, when I, when I have teach my students about Bach flower remedies, and we explored the different remedies, and they're much more than five, you kind of recognize yourself in so many reminiscence sometimes You really think oh my gosh, I really need all of them. So that's kind of normal. And also not that true. So we focus on the most important. So you really need to explore the five of them and to see, there are certain clues that you will find them we are going to talk about them that will guide you, which are the most important the main types of trauma you resonate with. And the other thing is that those five types of trauma so rejection, abandonment, humiliation, betrayal, and injustice. Each of them also leads to certain behavior, which we call a mask. So each of them leads to the typical behavior that's kind of a coping mechanism for the person for the soul for the child. So in order to protect himself, he develops this behavior, which is kind of an antidote or a way to prevent this trauma for being from being re experienced. And we'll talk specifically about each of those in the following episodes. But for now, just keep that in mind that each of those traumas is also affecting your behavior leading to certain typical characteristics, which are coping mechanisms. And when you learn more about this, you can let this go you can change so many things by healing your traumas, first of all, and eventually, you can really become who you are, you can be saved as who you really are. You won't need those coping mechanisms and those masks. So as we said, we We have those initial traumas, they are related to the past, but we choose the families that will allow us to re experience them. And those typical traumas for us tend to repeat in our adult life as well, until we heal them until we can deal with them. And also, another thing which is interesting is that each trauma may vary depending on the impact it has. So there could be, you know, the trauma of rejection, which for certain person might be kind of a small deal, let's call it like that. And for another person, it could be a huge negative experience. That's also important. So the stronger or the bigger the trauma is, of course, the stronger the consequences will be. Which means that the mask might be really kind of a part of who you think you are, or how other people see you. That's how much you might be connected to this mask. So it really depends on the size or the importance of this trauma. And you may guess that the stronger the trauma is, the more time we may need to heal this, but also the bigger the impact will be after that. And it's kind of logical. So give yourself some time explore each of the traumas and their characteristics, and event just heal those traumas. We are going to talk about how we can do that, so don't worry. But another thing here to remember is the more you resist, the more persists. This is kind of a general rule. We know that. That's just how things work. So the more we resist, to see the trauma to bring light and awareness to it and to heal it, the more it will persist in our life, the stronger impact it will have, the more it will repeat all over again with different people, and the stronger the mask will be. So it means that we are not living the way we want to be or the way we are supposed to be or in alignment with our CIO and our desires. So that's very important. Don't resist, instead, be open. Be gentle with yourself and with anyone else involved and give yourself the time to heal this Another thing, which is also very interesting, or it's kind of a main question here is okay, so how do we find which are the typical traumas for us as an individual because as we said, the same experience, the same event might be interpreted or may lead to a different type of trauma for different people. So how can we find Well, what's our or which are our main types of traumas? And there are very interesting clues that we can explore. But the first one is to analyze our body structure. Yes, you heard me correctly. The body structure literally how your body looks like proportions. Everything muscles, how much fat do you have? which parts of the body are bigger? In the others. By analyzing this, we may have a clearer idea of the typical trauma, the main trauma that we have experienced and we resonate with. And to make things more helpful. You can find the different body structures on my website. So just click the link for the show notes if you are listening to the podcast on Apple or Spotify, or if you're on the website, then on the same page, you will find those paintings. They were created by my wonderful assistant Chrissy. So she draw this paintings, those pictures for you to be able to see how the different structures of the body can be created. can be related to the different types of trauma. So go there and just see which one resonates the most with you. But it's not only about how the body looks, there are different characteristics. And for more details, just listen to the following five episodes to find, which are also, you know, the secondary and the other traumas that you resonate the most with. And I find this really helpful because, you know, the way the fact that your body can guide you, which is trauma you resonate with, because when we rely on the conscious mind, sometimes we might be misleading because we are so connected to those masks that we have created this coping mechanisms. Because those are painful things and we painful things. It's so difficult to be kind of you know, looking at things from Another perspective. So we may lie to ourselves, we may try to avoid seeing certain things we may try not to recognize, you know, some of those traumas. So that's why we pay attention to the body because the body does not lie, it will always tell you the truth. And it's not a coincidence what kind of structure your body has. And it's also true about the body may change over time. And that's also showing which kind of trauma you resonate with them at that particular time. So it's perfectly normal for the body to change. And the other interesting element here is that when you heal certain trauma, it will also allow you to balance the structure of your body So literally, your body will change After you heal certain traumas, and that my friends may not happen overnight, it may take lots of time. But it's totally worth it. So give yourself the time don't think that your body's supposed to change in a week or so it usually doesn't happen like that. But the more you connect, the more you heal certain trauma, the more balanced will be your personality, your so and eventually your body. So the change starts from the other levels, the mental, the spiritual, the emotional level, and at the end the physical level. So, it may take more time, but your body may literally change after you heal the traumas you have. So that, my friends is the introduction about the concept of the fire. main types of traumas, and also the masks we wear. Make sure to check the link and also see the pictures so you can define which type of traumas resonate the most with your body structure. And in the following five episodes we are going to talk about rejection, abandonment, humiliation, betrayal, and injustice. We'll talk about specifically the body characteristics, the behavior, the coping mechanisms and the masks. And also other interesting stuff that may guide you and show you how you may recognize the traumas because trust me, it's so important and also it's perfectly normal if you feel confused at first, and if it's difficult for you to define, which are the most significant traumas for you, again, perfectly normal, but by bringing your awareness and healing them, you are literally changing your life. If you need any help, you're always welcome to contact me, you will find my website and the different pages where you can find me. So I can really assist you into bringing your awareness and healing those traumas. So that was the introduction I have prepared for you. Thank you so much for listening. And make sure to check the next five episodes. See you next time. Take care. Thank you for listening to this episode. For more information, go to Mars stars dotnet and make sure to sign up for the free training on how to create a psychological profile with astrology.